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Change is daunting. Change is terrifying. Change invites in the unknown. But mostly, change is inevitable. The truth is that, throughout our lives, things are absolutely going to shift and move around and evolve. And while some of these changes are out of our control, there are definitely facets of our existence that are within our power to change for the better. And in her newest release The Pivot Year, author Brianna Wiest wants to help us do just that. When we were clearing out Granny and Grandpa’s house, my cousin happened to stumbled across a note my Grandpa had written to himself:

You are meant to evolve. You are meant to grow. You are meant to change. In the world we live in today, where we are often connected to a collection of every person we’ve ever known throughout all the phases of our lives, it can feel extra difficult to break through all of the layers of expectation and find our inner truth. I want you to remember that not only is this natural and normal, it’s healthy. It’s healthy to grow and experiment and it takes bravery to do so. Most people are content to accept a life that they can deal with, rather than fighting for one they will savor, one they will be proud of at the end of the day. When you begin your pivot period, you’re not just ending one chapter and beginning another. You’re opening yourself to a way of living that has you responding more to the moment you’re in. Adapting in real-time. It’s not about ever arriving at one single goal or objective. It’s about becoming the person you actually want to be, and living as them each day — even when it’s hard. It’s harder to live a life that’s not true. And I think that’s what you need to remember. When it comes to personal growth, it can feel as though it is a never-ending journey. And, in a way, I think that is because the work of stepping into ourselves is never truly finished. And this can become exhausting, to say the least. With that said, how can The Pivot Year help make our healing and self-actualization journeys more successful and fulfilling? Margot Robbie plays the formidable Nellie LaRoy who dreams of making it big in LA. LaRoy won’t let anything or anyone get in the way of her reaching dreams, including, as it turns out, a literal goddamn SNAKE. The wildest bacchanalian party ever committed to film. Exactly what it sounds like. President Kris. Vice President Khloe. Secretary of State Kendall (she is great at compromise if you don’t remember from her Pepsi ad). Attorney General Kim. Secretary of Transportation Kylie. Kourtney isn’t in the cabinet, she’s just sort of there making side comments and shaking a salad.As a result, you closely monitor everything you say in hopes you can prevent being let down or left. This can lead to over-apologizing and over-explaining yourself. And in the end, all of this self-monitoring just leads you to being more self-conscious and anxious. And yet, you can’t stop. It’s a vicious cycle. 2. You don’t believe in yourself. We start to wonder why it hasn’t happened for us and also begin to worry that it will never happen at all. In turn, we convince ourselves we are broken and unwanted and unlovable. We draft lists in our mind as to why we are currently single and return to those reasons when it’s late and we’re lonely and everything is hurting. With the help of Rio’s surly and stoic best friend Javi, Lola makes it a mission to break the family curse so she can fall in love without consequence. And over the course of that summer, Lola learns more about her family, herself, and the magic around us all. Sometimes we tend to forget that our current situation does not have to be our destiny. Charlotte Freeman, Everything You'll Ever Need Wiest discusses how we often unconsciously sabotage ourselves when we start to experience joy and positivity in our lives — a major theme of her book The Mountain Is You. This self-sabotage limits our forward momentum and connection to our desires. To overcome these joy extinguishers, we need to become aware of our upper limits and work to expand our capacity for positivity and happiness.

The book itself is broken down into nine chapters, taking a look at everything from soul goals to the various ways of setting your intentions with the universe, to taking action, to releasing your grip on your desires, and so much more. Think about it like this: Your favorite songs always end. The credits of your favorite movie will always roll. This book you’re holding in your hands will, too, come to a close. Would you stop listening to music, would you stop watch- ing movies, would you stop reading books just because they end? Shouldn’t we treat people the same? Because maybe it’s not about the longevity of the love but the quality of the time spent loving one another. After all, people change. We change. Who we are when we fell in love may no longer exist and vice versa. And after a little while ends with someone else, we can adore them from a distance and wish them well. Some people are only meant to be loved for a little while, and that’s okay. Molly Burford Read This When You Forget Your WorthIf you have RSD, you most likely also have low self-esteem as well. Your self-trust is basically non-existent. You struggle to see your worth and what you bring to the table because you are held hostage by memories or current experiences of rejection and loss. Your self-esteem is entirely dependent on what other people think about you. And when what they think is negative, you’re utterly devastated. 3. You’re absolutely terrified of failure.